it can wait or not?


Image taken from Google

So ,here is the thing, I have been vela(doing nothing) from the year 2007. Practically and literally i have been sitting with my feet up in the air and sipping coffee,reading a book,cooking,cleaning,taking care of kids and hubby and chilling out at home.

5 years,in which a person would have crossed the 10th class,finished their boards,chilled out at a cafe,sipping juice,joined junior college,attended first half of first year,bunked the rest,would have watched endless movies through exam time then moved on to the awesome degree and got a job!

I went through depression,happiness, pregnancy,post depression and then some more happiness.I opened the word document a million times,tried to be a part of start up,joined theater classes,tried to start theater classes.

so this makes me the most inconsistent,lazy,bored woman in the vicinity i know(means the whole of my family and friends list)

i remember giving and interview for a telugu paper in 2006 and stating “my father gave me time till 2011 and if i don’d do anything great,he will get me married” and he did(but the choice was mine and thank god for that).

now after 5 years,(also a person would get his/her gratuity from a company(five years gets them that) i think i wasted enough time….don’t go “duh! now she realized”.No,i realized it in 2006 itself and i have been good friends with procrastination.Our bond got stronger and he decided not to leave me!

so what is point of this post? it is me telling myself and basically in a subtle way,WHEN THE HELL WILL THIS MIND BLOCK END! 

News Today(sorry madam, we had to use all the pages for ad’s,here take the small A4 sheet,it has news)

News papers started making me shiver,every page I open makes me go into depression (like the OK one, not the prolonged “oh why,oh why?”).Rape,murder,killing,political hooligans,chamchas making black money(how,someone please tell me),drunken driving,minor weddings,deaths and so on.

Ok then, i say and take the supplementary,that makes me want to go to the newspaper office and put them into permanant depression! why do i care if an actor gets paid high,why do i care if an actress is going nude,why do i care if someone’s baby has a name,why do i care if the page3 crowd decided to go freaky on Friday and dress like they are in a deserted island with no wardrobe!

and then of course i realize i am poor,why you ask? they print ad’s like “hot property for sale” only 2 crore and offer is just for today!!!!!!!!! now why would i want to miss that,so i take a cheque for that amount and promptly go to the hot property site and say”here is a cheque for the same,when there is enough money in my account i will let you know”

most of the time,the pages are filled with advertisements and that too, not one, but two or three full pages.Now,when you want to read news,the papers have also become like T.V channels.I am reading “Govt,Mamata spar over Trivedi” and then “you can hire a lawyer and we will fight any case,even the ones where you need to fight with yourself” and then comes the mamata article.By then, I am like wait, who is fighting with who.Is this law firm a part of the Govt??????? 

yes,that is what i am saying,there is an article and then there is an ad in the article and the article circles around the ad. Newspaper people,have you stopped hiring people from good design schools? are you doing the coin toss and deciding who gets to edit the newspaper today? the print wala or the chai wala or lets see hmmmm,the EDITOR!

Come one now,get back to publishing and don’t make me use them as time pass reading, in you know where!


maid in bannerghatta

I changed four maids in the past 20 months. two left on their own will,one got married and the other was not happy with me.

These women have been at home living full time and were a part of my family.What irks me and kills me is out of these four,two of them thought that were doing me a favor.

now,how do you treat a live in maid?(don’t tell me that i am not allowed to address them like that)

V and I treat them like family,there was no difference not one at home bothered in which plate they ate or where they slept or what they did or how they sat or what they drank.We supported their families,gave money when needed.took care of their health and much more.Now,is it not a right way to treat these women? because there are few common things that they did and that made me think “maybe we are not allowed to be good to them,maybe we should treat them like they just work for us and keep them at an arms or 100 miles distance.”

The maid who quit about yesterday said “you always yell at me when i talk on the phone” i did as she has severe headache and the doctor said she needs to cut down the phone time.she said “you did not allow me to eat food one day” i agree as she was on medication and there was no way i was letting her shove down greasy food.I gave her everything that i would give a young girl in my house. the other day,we went to a friends house and she was sitting on the sofa,just like any other guest and waiting for my friend to serve her.So,i said “it might be ok in our house,but don’t do that in others house as they might not like it”.she said my friend asked her to sit on the sofa and i was glad that she did.But,this girl went on and on about how we rich people(what and how did she think i was rich!!!!!!!) do not treat them well,how we ignore them. (more about the rich,middle,poor gap in the net post)

but,like my friend once mentioned “these people never learn,all they see is not you.But the big house,the good clothes and good food and think,bloody rich people,we are poor because of them and they need to suffer” no matter how much you give them it is not enough.the pay that we give them is not at all cheap and we need to provide,food,clothing,soap,shampoo,brush and much more.Do the  places we work at give us all this? do we tell our boss “you did not let me talk on the phone,so screw you” and walk off.

I felt cheated yesterday,like when your child looks at you and says “fish off mother,i never asked you to do all this for me,why did you do it”.I learnt my lesson after this and never ever shall i treat them like the way i do from now on it will be the old way”you work,you get paid and that is all that you get”